What do we mean by "busy?" 3 ways to bring back your focus
It's been a while since I've written a post like this. I've been really busy over the summer..... awww, I've done it already!
How easy is it to slip into saying we're "busy", without really thinking about what that means, and how life got like that?
Sometimes I find myself jolted into awareness that I've become a machine for 'getting stuff done', which is ok for a little while, but not a successful strategy for quality of life.
When there are multiple demands on our time, it can be tempting to start pedalling and keep going, a bit like shifting gear to cycle up a big hill, and you dare not stop or you'll never get going again!
Did you know that our minds are wandering 47% of the time, on average? When we're juggling multiple demands and receiving notifications, data and communications from all over the place, it's no wonder that our minds don't stay still for long.
The trouble is, this inevitably shifts our focus into 'doing' mode - instead of 'being'....being fully present with the people we're close to, enjoying ourselves and having fun, and feeling resourceful and resilient when challenges come along. Living with intention, purpose and conscious choice.
So how can you do that when you're 'busy' and pedalling fast to keep up?! Here are some steps you can use in-the-moment to bring back your focus:
Just breathe and be present
The first step is to take a deep breath and notice how you are thinking, feeling, and behaving, with kindness and compassion towards yourself. It's not about telling yourself off or correcting something that's wrong, just noticing things as they are. Accepting yourself as you are. It's a very important step before being able to make changes based on conscious choice.
Ask yourself: "What do I WANT to have happen?"
This places your attention on a positive outcome, and then you can decide calmly and rationally - maybe even creatively - what to do and how to 'be' to make it happen.
(and a practical tip here - if you want to free up time and space to think, and are not sure how, try limiting screen time and switch off notifications. More on that in another post!)
Aligned with the outcome focus in the question above, at any given moment you can use gratitude to ground yourself and shift towards positive thinking. This can be as simple as noticing 3 things you're grateful for in that moment, or in the day or week just past. Focus on the abundance of opportunities and choices, people who have had a positive impact on you, new learning or moments you've enjoyed.
Notice how refreshed and re-energised you are after just a few minutes following these steps. And when you invest in this a couple of times throughout the day, the benefits multiply. Make a regular commitment over the long term and it has even more to offer your physical, emotional and mental health. It has the power to change your thoughts and experiences for the better, and from that you can bring the best of yourself to others in your life.
“Those who are wise won't be busy, and those who are too busy can't be wise.” Lin Yutang, The Importance of Living
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